Definition of Coercive Control (courtesy - click here)
Control and Coercive Control - The Invisible Disguise of Abuse as a form of Normal Daily Living Exposed
If you find yourself constantly adapting under fear or threats to your survival, autonomy and human rights, you might be in a relationship with someone whom has become a more sophisticated and vexatious abuser. Call 101 to check the person's history, it might reveal a hidden "secret" of on-going abuse in a previous relationship or marriage, you are allowed to know. (If you can invest in a recorder or digital recorder tape all in going/out going calls you have with the police you might need this later.)
If you are thinking of escaping an abusive relationship, you can talk to JHTE to help you to build Courage, Strength and Self Esteem, to make those steps to free yourself from what is restricting your liberty and preventing you from living a personal life. Coercive Control is a liberty crime under the Human Rights Act, and is against the UK law and your EU Rights. You are also entitled to essential rights under PACE 1984 and Articles 5, 6 and 8 ECHR. See also the new extended definition to Domestic Violence implemented by the government Home Office March 2013.
In the meantime, do not argue or touch the perpetrator in any hostile way, even a touch can be misinterpreted just to get you a criminal record, and have your children taken into care. If you are ever requested to just visit the police station to give your side of the story, go with an Independent Expert Criminal and Human Rights Lawyer of your choice or call one on the way, because if you use a Duty Solicitor on your first visit/interview they might not give up you file easily to your preferred solicitor, without a fee/charge to release your file to them. You might have to wait until all interviews end and if you are charged, there might be an opportunity then, to change your legal representatives without a fee/charge, but it may still take time to get your file released, this could be stalled and presented on the day, at court. Duty Solicitors receive fixed fees from the police but you may decide to use one, and the first legal representative you see might already be your preferred one. The point is always instruct someone you know you can trust.
You can say "no comment" until and even if your preferred legal representative is present at interviews. It's up to you. But take expert legal advice, because inferences will be taken from what you say or don't say later. But check your local Citizen Advice Bureau website anyway about what happens to you if you get arrested and the matters on divorce and domestic violence. It's the Crown Prosecution Service not the police whom decides if there is a case in the end or a full trial, after the police gives 'their' findings, at the end of police interviews. This could all be just hearsay but it could still be presented.to a Magistrates or Crown Court Judge, even if it's only to greet you to say to you in person in the dock "have a nice day....', and dismiss the case. Let's not forget the facts of wasting your money, having to sell assets to pay your legal bill and wasting tax payers' money!And, interviewers alluding to jumping to conclusions without checking databases for histrionic records of any previous violence against you!
Rest assured the Home Office is well aware of this type of abuse and the need to close the gaps. Contact JHTE if you get arrested, for emotional and psychological support on 07900201241, and your independent criminal and human rights lawyer for expert legal advice. If you have suffered psychological harm as a consequence, you can get help. Keep a number for a good independent criminal lawyer in your phone at all times or remember the name of the firm, you never know when you might need one for something like this kind of abuse, for yourself, or for a family member or a friend. You can ring this number too 07900201241 to help you to move on.
This is increasingly becoming a tactic of manipulative abusers to get an advantage in divorce and separation, child custody battles, and compensation, that is easy money if they can, from the courts directly from you, plus get you a criminal record, called Ubending the law against the real victim. This is immoral and wrong but it is really happening in the UK. At this level the abuser has become a professional 'Gamer' in the field of abuse, by actually using the legal system freely, by the book, as 'legal abuse', and it can get costly in legal fees for YOU defending yourself, if you don't know how this works, and maybe a criminal record, especially if you are not entitled to Legal Aid from Magistrates through to County Crown Level, and beyond. Yes, even Judicial Review !
Decide whether you are staying with the abuser, because their income will likely count in your Legal Aid Application and this can work against you. Often the outcome can be a "trap" of a Vexatious Prosecution against you for leaving or trying to leave the abuser, or for not being in servitude to that individual in other words exclusively obedient, and you can only try to sue the Abuser and other brutal influencers later, and you might even have the bailiff at your door for outstanding legal bills as well, depending on whether you had to pay private legal fees or not. Any equity or assets may also be at risk or removed to pay fees.
The aim of the abuser can be to cause you maximum mental torture, financial hardship, disruption to your job or business, loss of your home, forcing you to move out to seize the home and assets, affect your employability in one word just cause "chaos". for as long s possible, before you wake up to what's happening, with the aid of recognised agencies acting in Your behalf. It's a bit like 'a witch hunt' or the Inquisition.
Be careful that whilst you are not concentrating that the abuser might be already celebrating and happily getting their divorce papers and representation ready to hit you with the next waive of terror. The more professional abusers may have already spent time reading up on psychology, law, sociology and economics, so when they strike, the plan may disable you severely in a manoeuvre to get an effective charge or an arrest by an allegation(s). Without a very good criminal and human rights lawyer, as a vulnerable person you could be in further danger of actual psychological harm.
Divorce games is all about winning - the person whom gets the divorce first is said to be the winner some believe, even at the cost of the breakdown of the whole family, maybe the loss of your home and children and shared friends and extended family, and everything that you have worked hard for. Remember, the abuser might even be trying to get a charge on you to simply get access to legal aid on the grounds of domestic violence, any other reason normally does not qualify for it, at the time of writing in this context.
It's all 'games' and the police will more than likely arrest YOU if the abuser calls - it's a mandatory arrest, at the time of writing, and sometimes unwittingly they could protect the abuser and take you through the court process themselves, even if the abuser may withdraw along the timeline of the process up to the court date, and you might not even know about the abusers withdrawal until the very last moment in court, standing before a panel or a judge. It might take months for you to get a full disclosure that the other side had long ago withdrawn and moved on, well after you have gravely suffered mentally, emotionally, psychologically, and fallen ill. Further, some agencies might not be bothered that you had fallen ill AFTER the event as a result of trauma.
You can do something before the abuser strikes by making trivial, petty or serious allegations against you to the police, with just one side of the story - by the abuser simply making a 999 call first for fun, or simply 'to make you sweat...', as has been known. Remember, at this level it can get costly. It just takes one phone call to the police. If you get caught in this 'trap' or situation it may cause serious high levels of anxiety, sleep problems and nightmares, and REPEATED requests for medication, causing the abuser to say that 'you are going crazy', this is exactly what Divorce Gamesmanship is designed to do.
Parallel, tactical, Systematic Control and Coercive Control, can further end up in a 'trivial' police charge and CPS prosecution to defend, that you did not anticipate, with the other sides, with them opting to doing a no show on the day in court, with you left to deal with a CPS trial and the mental torture you have already suffered intensified! The case may be thrown out, but whom is accountable? Keep records, you will need them. Especially if agencies fail to inform the CPS of any histrionic abuse because they are simply too busy!
Be courageous get a good lawyer at every point of contact with the police, or you might be down the courts, whether the abuser has a serious violent criminal history or not already on record, that can easily be traced by Clare's Law, or otherwise, that no one seems to care about on domestic violence mandatory arrests, according to expert writers in the field.
Take immediate action, call your preferred lawyer first, then a Domestic Violence Advocate they are a team of professionals to support you from word go. Stay calm, get plenty of rest, keep a diary of every single event, phone calls and emails, stay in contact with trusted friends and relatives regularly, speak to a counsellor or psychotherapist early, join a Therapeutic Writing group - write a book, to distance yourself from the isolated trauma early. Do as many normal activities as you can to restore your equilibrium.
Ensure that you have a powerful network of family and friends that really care, research criminal lawyers so that if something else happens, you can ask for that specific lawyer or firm to represent you from the 'beginning' or at an appropriate point. If you are ever arrested see if you qualify for legal aid with your preferred lawyer, and the implications of your application early, ie. costs. If you sign a legal aid form at any time you are giving instructions, seek legal advice.
Stay level headed and only give instructions to the lawyer(s) that you want to represent you - it can cause delay in moving files. Ask as many free questions as you need to along the way to lawyers that you can. It's often the silly questions that are the important ones. Take good care of your original documents - keep all originals or scan and email them. A good criminal lawyer can be you saving grace from this type of oppression or persecution. Thankfully, you can contact Ross, but get in touch with us for an Assessment and contact details.
Changing solicitors after your very first legal representation after an arrest may trigger fees, so be very careful about whom you get to represent you early. You might want to choose your own lawyer from start to finish of the process. It really does not matter whom you are, Ubending has even happened to criminal lawyers, journalists and other professionals leaving an abuser, this could be to try to chronically affect your future employability, finances, daily living expenses, your health and your ability to live a personal life.
Talking to the abuser, the abusers family and their personal friends might land you in jail as well depending on what you say, so avoid this if the police say "no contact - directly/indirectly", if you are on bail - whilst you get a good criminal lawyer. The abuser or his family may try to call you, effectively, if you speak to them, you could be breaching your bail conditions and could be rearrested.
Remember, if you are thinking of leaving the abuser tell the police early, well in advance, (record calls), so that they are aware of your situation before the abuser calls them in time 'first', it might help, and at least you have a record, like a CAD number - keep records.
It could all boil down to 'whom called the police first' in the end, that could make the difference for your future, in not being locked in a cell for hours and being placed on police or court bail, being sent to jail, or even losing your livelihood, career, children and home. Malicious Prosecutions for divorce and separation are on the increase and domestic violence abusers are being defended in court, so be aware, this is real.
Give yourself a head start by contacting your independent lawyer before you open your mouth to defend an allegation or give your side of the story, it might save you thousands and your sanity, and the damaging hurt that the abuser is aiming to execute on you through the law and police process on mandatory arrests.
If the abuser can't physically kill you they will really hurt you with unprecedented power and torture, that you might think cannot be challenged, but be rest assured you can stand tall faster, with the right lawyer.
Whatever you decide to do act fast, the abuser will be aiming to get you to 'self-destruct', and it might take a long time to start feeling better. Some abusers may withdraw after their anger has dissipated, however, this does not automatically stop a police process, or trigger you getting to know automatically that the abuser has withdrawn magically, unless a reliable source has actually told you personally and it's provable; like your solicitor. The police process is a police process, this is independent from anything and anybody else, and you could end up in court whether there is a withdrawal or not, but the abuser's withdrawal might help end the matter, but not necessarily.
As mentioned agency disclosures might wait until the court date, whenever that might be, as to whether you can go free or not. Some abuser's just want to scare their victim or make them excessively panic about 'what's going to happen...?' , as has been known. This is mental torture, psychological and emotional abuse and a waste of police and court time, but abusers are really getting away with these abusive behaviours and use of brutal forces.
These kind of issues are already a big problem in the United States in separation and divorce matters.
You may be at high risk so talk to your GP right away, let your GP know you are experiencing abuse, seek independent legal advice, and speak to a therapist.
For clinical guidance and professional therapeutic consultancy for victims of this kind of UK and EU crime contact JHTE on 07900201241 now.
The You Are Not Crazy Model 2014 - by Jennifer Hooper, Registered and Accredited
CONCENTRATE - STAY FOCUSSED - BELIEVE IN YOURSELF - TAKE IMMEDIATE ACTION - DO SOMETHING - ACT FAST - GET A CRIMINAL AND HUMAN RIGHTS LAWYER - STAY CALM AT ALL TIMES - AVOID RAISING YOUR VOICE - KEEP STRICT RECORDS - KEEP SAFE - STAY CLOSE TO YOUR TRUSTED NETWORK - SEEK MEDICAL ATTENTION - CONTACT A THERAPIST
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Clare's Law - Effective From March 2014
What to do if you suspect that your new or existing partner has a secret abusive past, or you are a victim of histrionic abuse?
Clare's Law effective from March 2014 had rolled out a previous pilot scheme. The scheme is now effective in all of the UK as the 'The Domestic Abuse Disclosure Scheme', named after Clare Wood, a murdered victim of domestic violence.
You have a right to know, even if you haven't asked for the information, you might even be automatically notified of a perpetrator's abusive past, if you are a victim.
How you can check in confidence:
If you are in danger dial 999
Ring 101, its a free call to the police for non-emergency calls
Ask a police officer on the street to check
Visit your local police station for details
Ask a Domestic Violence Agency
- Southall Black Sisters - 02085710800
- Hestia Women's Aid - 02073881500
You have a legal right to this support, so that you can make informed choices about your future.
Clare's Law - Right to Ask and Right to Know (click here)
Have you been accused of a domestic violence offence? Calls to 999 or 101.
It's likely that 999 or 101 calls to the police are all recorded, however, when you are passed to a Police Station extension number (internal number), or if a police officer calls you from a geographical location this might not be recorded. Effectively this may mean it's your word versus the police when it comes to the facts. If you can invest in a tape recorder or a digital tape recorder tape all calls received or made to the police, especially if someone is trying to get you a criminal record. You can try complaining about your treatment but months down the line you might find out that a department like the DPS can only go on concrete evidence, so if you've been abused along the timeline, even if the abuse was for years or decades, unless you can prove this with concrete evidence your complaint might not be the end result you was hoping for without a fight. Tape all calls in/out to the police if you have been accused of an offence, or if you are exiting a violent relationship, you, your relatives or representatives may need this evidence later.
Unravelling the blanket of immunity (see full article here ...)